A Child's Tender Life - Make it, Dont Break it !!

I was surfing through some blogs when i came across a blog where in a girl had shared her grief of losing her friend who had committed suicide.,. And why did her friend suicide.,. She suicided because of a failed relationship.... Just because the relationship didnt work out, or because they had to break up,the girl took the liberty of taking her own life, leaving everyone who were there for her in tears.,. Recently there has been a spate of news saying someone committed suicide because of a bad performance in academics, or because of an uncertain future or because of a failed relationship.. I dont want to rant my feelings on how bad the family of the deceased would feel, nor why such a senseless decision to take their life was taken. I want to muse over the reason's why such cases of suicide continues to happen and how to create an awareness and as well as share/get some insights from wise people like you on how these things could be prevented....

                           DEPRESSION DEPRESSES 

I agree that Depression is the number one reason to commit suicide.,. As one of my friend said its due to a huge expectation on someone/something, our attachment to it and to find that we have been cheated or that our expectations wont be met, which prompts people to take the extreme step. I understand how depressed one will be, and its quite natural to be depressed, yet it doesnt guarantee taking the extreme step. I feel one of the reason's for such things happenings is the lack of moral support for the person concerned.. I know it sounds vague, yet take any instance.

                     

                          

The Family members expect the child to perform exceedingly well, to be first and want him/her to be the best. In that case, naturally the child gets bog down by other's expectations. What they need at such stage , is the belief that no matter what happens, the Family is always for them,that there are people who will understand them, empathize with them[not judge them]. I know every family member is always present for each other, yet can i know how many people voice it to their children their love and their belief in them. As far as i know there are some families where the parents are so obsessed and busy with their work, that they don't have any time to see their children, forget talking with them. Its such a pity that some elders think that Money will take care of all the concerns of a child and a posh home, and a good status of living is all that Children need.,.They couldnt have a much wronger notion.

Also pressure on children to perform well in academics has been taken to extreme levels.,. I heard of a case where in a daughter after doing her Board exams felt that she wont be able to match her family expectation. She took the extreme step and when the results came she had stood first in her school. In other cases,where in children who are talented in some other fields, and who are not able to perform exceedingly well in acads, are fed with the notion that if you are not good at Acads, you are not fit for nothing. The amount to which it affects a child's confidence cant be fathomed.,.

Yes, the teaching style of institutions and the belief system shares an equal blame for such things. Yet more than that, it must start with each family. Every parents should tell their kids that its they who matters a lot more than their report sheet. I understand that all parents have their own expectations of their child and its for the child well-being. Yet the child can do wonders if you make him belief that he has the capacity to succeed and give him constant support and encouragement. A real life example of this is none other than the Brainiest person to have lived in the earth -Albert Einstein. I dont know how many of you know that Einstein was a schizophrenic child and his maths teacher had asked him to leave school as she thought that he was not fit to study maths. Yet Albert's Mother believed in her son, and coached him, teaching him herself, and Albert's action speaks for himself,and for his Mom's belief.,.

                                CHILD EINSTEIN 

Second main reason,which i feel people resort to extreme steps is the fear of rejection of society.,. If you have been living under a flashy image and suddenly you feel that you are not able to live up to your image, the fear that people will shun you prompts people to do that. Again in this, its the "Expectation" which comes in.,. Also, its because people tend to forget that it is their image which in turn builds an image rather than their image building themselves. An instance which i can remember now, is about the Icon Steve Jobs,when he was thrown out from his own company, he found everything around him meaningless and he felt that living now is waste. Yet he got over that disappointment , by his belief in his abilities, and he was back again with a bigger bang !!

Same was the case of Lee Iacoca who was fired from the position of CEO by Henry Ford from Ford Motors, which left him in a poor shade in media. Yet he came back stronger by turning the fortunes of Chrysler. The history is full of stories of people who have failed,who have lost, yet they lived to tell their tales and create a legacy. The same legacy can be created by anyone who beliefs in himself. Hence i stress the point again that how the childrens are guided and mentored has an much wider impact on them later on.

                      PARENTAL LOVE AND CARE

I started this article with the intention of making people know about how their support and care can make a person belief in himself.,. I dont know if iam successful in my attempt,but i believe that proper Parental care and Love will ensure that the Child/individual copes up with any obstacles or disappointments and would in turn be a source of support and hope to others !! What i would like from those who read this article is, please spread the awareness of proper nurturing of children to everyone you know and also inculcate this in your lives too. :)
This will ensure that the future will be in the hands of Confident, Inspired Leaders , as Today's Children are Tomorrow's Citizens.

God Bless Everyone.. cheers :)